It has been such, a long week (wipes sweat), as a matter of fact, it has been a long year and its just January lol. But still EYE rise.
It can be so is easy to make promises, and have expectations. To plan how these things will happen is the hard part. We create an image and even know what end results we desire. But the patience and resilience needed to achieve those goals become difficult. Most times we create expectations, get into situations, commitments, Create New years resolutions because everyone else is doing it. This is a path that leads to destruction.
Slow and Steady Wins the race.
I have discovered that to achieve favor, and success, or at least satisfaction in any desired endeavor, taking things step by step, is extremely vital (Ayegbajeje). It is advisable to consider quality over quantity and saving time. The meaning of Ayegbajeje is literally to take life easy.
After this discovery,
I had to make some adjustments to my thinking. In the past, I began many projects or made commitments after only considering the happiness of the person I am doing it for, or even just thinking why not, I have the time and it will cost me nothing.
In reality, everything costs, maybe not physical cash, but if u consider the amount of time, energy and effort, you might reconsider. You might realize your time will be more valuable in watching a movie or sleeping in. Rather than coming home with a feeling of emptiness.
This is what will happen when you begin anything without your own personal purpose and step by step plan towards achieving it.
A person I hadn’t heard from in months, reached out to me in a struggle, needing to borrow some cash. Though I had more than enough at that time to lend and be okay if they paid me back as promised, I decided to get some advice because this is someone who hardly checks on me.
He went on to explain that this is because in reality, although I would like to help a friend out of a sticky situation, this person has made no investment in our relationship (no trust). Also, I have my own situations to deal with. He also advised don’t consider the fact that if the roles were reversed could you reach out to this person and expect help.
A the end of the day you would lend what u couldn’t give trying to satisfy that person's need, and maybe not wanting to tarnish a nonexistent relationship. Instead, the relationship still breaks after a month without a refund, and many many conversations, excuses, and postponements.
The moral of all this story is to;
Begin with the end in mind (consider all possibilities before you start).
The great author of 7 habits, in his book, made this a very prominent point. “everything is created twice”. From a house to a car even a person. First, it is created in your mind (you have an image of your end goal), and the last step would be to actually build the structure.
There are many ways to go about this process though, and the steps you take between step number 1 and the last step, whether just 5 or 15 steps will determine the level of satisfaction you get out of the project. You have to understand though that you are in control of those steps.
If you were asked to invest in a new house project, and their first step was to start building blocks, no land tests, or a diagram of what the house would look like, what would you think the chances of their success would be?
Exactly it might be successful, but it is such a great risk I wouldn’t invest my coins in that project, would you?
To sum it up……..
This scenario applies to every situation in life, there are guidelines in place and rules people have followed that have worked. Trial and error are fun when it comes to applications and technology, but when it comes to life-determining projects like building a house or committing to a business, a step by step plan is the effective way to go.
One thing I have repeated so much this year is if you really plan on achieving a goal you do not need a new year to start. Begin as soon as possible first by planning it out. One of the most prominent new year's resolutions I have seen is going to the gym. first of all that is not the achievement, the goal is maybe to tone out lose some weight, get a bigger butt, etc so going to the gym is only one of the steps to do that. so create a plan:
I want to lose 30 pounds by June of 2020 you decided this in November 2019. At this point, I have 8 months to achieve this. This means loosing 4 pounds every month
1. healthier diet, from today I will no longer eat rice or bread
2. I will start every day with fruit for breakfast and at least one vegetable throughout the day
3. I will go to the gym at least three times a week
4. create a menu/meal plan
5. Meditate every morning and imagine me in that thinner body
It is always better to measure ten times and cut once than to measure once and cut ten times. when you know your goal and know why you want to achieve it and exactly how you will not wait 2 months to start.